Do you ever go along to a training course or keynote speech and effectively stand on the perimeter rather than immersing yourself in the spirit of the presentation? That is, do you internally think; the argument has logical inconsistencies or I’ve heard it all before or I know a better way? In other words, you are comparing and contrasting what you already know with what is being presented.
Does all the chatter in your head get in the way of hearing what’s being said and engaging in a different possibility? If yes, you may deny yourself the opportunity for learning and a different way of seeing things.
When doing the Newfield Mastery in Coaching course, I was just buzzing with ideas, fascinated by how our language, body and emotion create our reality and enable or prevent us from making sustainable changes.
At that time I had selected a coach, David, who was very different from me. We laughingly described him as “beads and sandals” and me as “stilettos and shoulder pads”. I remember saying to him that I was really excited by all the possibilities that were opening up, but also feeling resentful that my analytical identity was being constrained.
I envisaged myself as a pie (well, not literally) with wedges labelled analytical, body, language and emotion. As the B, L and E wedges expanded I felt like the A wedge was being squeezed. He asked me, “ why can’t your pie simply grow and all the wedges expand?
Duh…. and even more interestingly “why can’t you become more ABLE?” OK, so it sounds cheesy, but it was a revelation for me. I now recognise that I have the ability to discern when to be analytical and how analytical to be.
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